You’re tall? You’re curly? You’re both? Then you’ve probably heard one of these before, and the chances are great you’ve heard them zillions of times:
“How tall are you?”
“You’re so tall!”
“Have you ever thought about relaxing your hair?”
“Can I touch your hair?”
“You’re so tall why do you wear high heels?”
“How’s the weather up there?”
“I like you better with your hair straight.”
“You’d look better with your hair straight.”
“Do you play basketball?”
I’ve heard them all. Over again and again and again and again and again.
The main issue you’re facing when you’re different in some way is: how not to be rude with that person who thinks he or she’s the first one to ever ask or comment about how tall you are, how big your hair is or anything else it is you have that is noticeable. Because the problem is: people are awaiting for an ANSWER.
I’d love to just leave.
“How’s the weather up there?!”
And I leave. Like I’ve just heard the far-off voice of an angel calling my name or something. But I can’t.
Then I can’t say what goes through my mind. Well. Not each and every time. Sometimes I do. Out of exasperation. But then I regret it. So I generally try to be nice, and polite. But wouldn’t it be great to live in a world without filters sometimes? A world where we could speak our mind for real, just like these people do – because let’s face it, they do. If they had filters, they wouldn’t say these things and we would never have to hold back the truth, ever.
I often get asked: “What should I say when someone tells me this or that?”, “What would be a good answer when someone asks me this or that?”. The truth is, I don’t have great answers to these questions other than: just stay there and smile like a moron.
Or, be ready to hurt someone and to live with it. Your call.
Today, a sneak peek inside my head, for every time all people saw on the outside was:
What would YOU say, if you could speak your mind freely…?? 🙂
And because I’ve heard both:
And I did this once. Would definitely do it again. Was fuuuuuuun.
Inspired by Sabrina R. XD
This literally just made my morning. I’m 5’10 with naturally curly/coily hair. Every single time I wear heels I get the “you’re so tall already, why worsen things?”…-_-” I mean i’m tall with and without heels, so I fail to see what the problem is. I wear my heels happily because I can and try my best to ignore the trivial and annoying comments. Thank you for giving me some new comebacks for all the never ending questions a fellow tallncurly girl gets asked everyday. 🙂
When people make tall jokes at me i look around and say, “I swear I hear someone talking.”
or say, “Awwww, and what’re you gonna be when YOU grow up?” xD
HA HA HA!!! I am so going to use the, “what are you going to be when you grow up?” line!! Awesome 😀
mandy ingram says
The Basketball comments fade as you get older, I went out with a guy who was 7 foot 10 inches tall for a while::( I’m only over 6 foot with high heels on!) It was like walking down the street with a Celebrity, everyone we met wanted to tell him how tall he was, he was over 35 years old, he was an athlete( Rower, not basketball) and he dealt with it like a true Gentleman: he would smile and acknowledge the person, and act like they had just complimented him and without saying anything, his smile and nod seemed to invite them in to share this “secret” they had just shared with him, it didn’t take a long time, this little smile, and nod routine he had going, but it left everyone feeling good . Of course , he had an extreme amount of personal confidence ( Athlete , etc) but it’s a trick worth learning, if you want to gracefully continue your life without interruption from all your “Fans” ( This is what happens to famous people: people constantly recognize them , and go up to them and say you’re “their name” aren’t you?” As if they didn’t know their own name!!!!)
I love your Art: Have you joined the “Long Tall Sally facebook site: they have a “Tall comebacks ” section and a teenage section for girls too….) I have a daughter , who may be tallish too, she loves Manga art and other _i’m going to share you with her Hearts to you>>>>xxx
I’m really 5’5″ but I always say I’m 5’6″ lol.
Ha ha ha… I think I’ve used most of these responses 😀 I also TRY to be polite. But one time, when a guy asked where I got my height from I said I was the result of a govt experiment. It confused the heck out of him. I LOVE your comics about height and hair… so nice to know there’s someone else out there who hears the same stuff 🙂
I was raised to be proper and courteous.However I can’t say the same is true for everyone else.At 50 yrs young I now answer polite questions/compliments with a polite answer,even if it doesn’t really answer their question,just tactfully directsBut it took many y their attention elsewhere.If the comment or question is rude,at this point in my life,I’m rude right back.My hope is they’ll realize how rude they were and will think before they open their mouth next time.We can always hope anyway.And I live with it just fine,because seriously,some people just need to be put into their place.They are rude,arrogant and think they own the world.Well,in my world they don’t mean jack and I let them know it with no qualms.But it took many years of the same stupid,rude questions for me to break my mother’s teachings,and actually be rude to a person.An incident: a self-anointed young beauty queen told me I would look better if I didn’t wear heels, got a nose job to make it smaller and straightened my hair.My reply “Well then I would look like a plastic Barbie doll just like you and I wouldn’t be myself” and I walked away leaving her with her mouth wide open and speechless. Must be nobody else back talked the queen bee,till along came me.I was congratulated by several women,so I’m assuming they had been under attack by her also.
I’m tall and kinky 😉
You are so right when you say that if these people had filters, they wouldn’t dare. I sometimes wonder if I am being too nice of a person because I’m careful to what I say to people, why wouldn’t they?
Hahahaha, OMG I love these responses. I am going to use them soon
My boyfriend at the time and I were invited to a “fancy” house party. I donned a presentable cocktail dress and heels. When said boyfriend showed up he said, “Oh – you’re not going to wear your tall shoes are you?”. I replied that they are not called tall shoes – they are called heels, besides, my desert boots are at the shoemakers.” It was weird – heels only bothered him around certain people. In the end though, I felt uncomfortable all evening.
The heel thing ALWAYS bothers my husband. I am 5’10” and depending on the shoes, well over 6’2″….well let’s just say without heels I am almost taller than him! So anywhere we go and I suggest wearing heels he looks at me funny! I have a collection of heels but never wear them due to stupid comments and feeling like I am this huge intimidating girl! I affectionately call myself the “jolly green giant”. I guess it’s time to pull those babies out and rock it!
Rcla6243, I am sure that you did not have a growth spurt during your courtship. Meaning your husband knew that you were tall. Tall is not a bad word. Rock your hills and don’t refer to your self as a giant. Love yourself. I’m sure that you are beautiful. I’m taller than my husband in hills and he loves that my legs are so lunch
OMG THIS IS MY LIFE. Well the hair side anyway. I really just want to be like “NO ONE ASKED YOU”. My response to people asking to touch my hair is “as long as I can rub your face” I LOVE THIS
LOL. As long as I can rub your face, good one! Stealing it.