You’re tall? You’re curly? You’re both? Then you’ve probably heard one of these before, and the chances are great you’ve heard them zillions of times:
“How tall are you?”
“You’re so tall!”
“Have you ever thought about relaxing your hair?”
“Can I touch your hair?”
“You’re so tall why do you wear high heels?”
“How’s the weather up there?”
“I like you better with your hair straight.”
“You’d look better with your hair straight.”
“Do you play basketball?”
I’ve heard them all. Over again and again and again and again and again.
The main issue you’re facing when you’re different in some way is: how not to be rude with that person who thinks he or she’s the first one to ever ask or comment about how tall you are, how big your hair is or anything else it is you have that is noticeable. Because the problem is: people are awaiting for an ANSWER.
I’d love to just leave.
“How’s the weather up there?!”
And I leave. Like I’ve just heard the far-off voice of an angel calling my name or something. But I can’t.
Then I can’t say what goes through my mind. Well. Not each and every time. Sometimes I do. Out of exasperation. But then I regret it. So I generally try to be nice, and polite. But wouldn’t it be great to live in a world without filters sometimes? A world where we could speak our mind for real, just like these people do – because let’s face it, they do. If they had filters, they wouldn’t say these things and we would never have to hold back the truth, ever.
I often get asked: “What should I say when someone tells me this or that?”, “What would be a good answer when someone asks me this or that?”. The truth is, I don’t have great answers to these questions other than: just stay there and smile like a moron.
Or, be ready to hurt someone and to live with it. Your call.
Today, a sneak peek inside my head, for every time all people saw on the outside was:
What would YOU say, if you could speak your mind freely…?? 🙂
And because I’ve heard both:
And I did this once. Would definitely do it again. Was fuuuuuuun.
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UPDATE
Inspired by Sabrina R. XD
hahaahaha i am only turning 14 and have curly hair and am proudly a 6 footer heheehheh… i love your drawings btw xx
Thank you Harleen ^_^
I hit 6’ at 14 too.
Talking of height im only 12 but im already 5’6 lol and the thing is i do play basketball and not because of my hieght.
One time I was hanging with a friend and her boyfriend, and he was considered short since he was the average height of a lady. I had a good six inches on the guy. We were in the kitchen fixing food, and he stared up at me and asked. “Why are you so tall!?” Without missing a beat I grinned and asked, “Why are you so short?” He just nodded and let me be.
Another time I had a customer come into the store and start gawking.
Him: How tall are you!?
Me: I’m 5’10.
Him: No you’re not! I’m 6′ and you’re taller than me!
Me: You’re 5’8″, honey.
The only time I don’t mind being noticed for my height is when elderly people need me to grab things off the top shelf for them. 🙂
This is the story of my life!!
I’m 14 and 5’8″ and I also have very curly blonde hair. I am happy with my hair and height though, if anything I’d like to be taller, because my family are all very tall and call me short all the time! ?
Wish I had you height I’m 14 and 4’9 ???
It’s so annoying… 5’6 is tall? C’mon I think people shorter then at least 5’10 (that I consider perfect height) have no right of calling themself tall\giant and whine about it. For me as 6’2 person it’s just so annoying… and makes me sad..really
Having a New York attitude, I never have a problem telling people that I do not want to be bothered with them. An agressive attotude will make people leave you alone very easily. I resent people invading my.personal space and questioning me about my wavy hair or makeup. I have a right to readily exist as a black woman with natural hair.
Yas ladies! As a 5’10” chick and a very curly girl I can totally relate. It’s nice to see other girls/women go through the same stuff! I need to get good at comebacks. I get embarrassed and mad really easy and always force myself to be nice. Irish Temper 🙁
Une française qui traîne partout 😛
Si une personne avec qui je ne suis pas proche demande à toucher mes cheveux , je lui dirai non et le préviendrai que je lui tordrais le bras. Si elle s’exécute, tans pis elle a été prévenu 🙂