Learning to be a tall girl
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 months, tall girl obstacle race, go!
You were born 2 minutes ago but you’re already 22 inches long.
You’re thin as a rail so on every picture of your first day on Earth you look like a starving child from one of these sad TV commercials. But you don’t care. You’re happy, you’re drooling and eating and sleeping is all that matters to you.
Bam. You’re 8 years old. You’re already taller than all your little friends at school but for some reason it doesn’t bother you. Yet.
You hate boys and being taller than all of them is very practical. They annoy and hit the other little girls, but they are afraid of you so they leave you in peace.
Bam. You’re 13. You’re at your first party and you think it’s gonna be the time of your life but the DJ decides to put slow music on for 30 minutes. While all your friends have been invited to dance by a boy, you’re sitting there alone, feeling sad, and awkward. There clearly is a problem here.
Bam. You’re 15 years old. You’re in love with Tom at school. He is super smart. Super funny. Super nice. Or was he until you heard him tell his friends at recess that he would rather bang his old history teacher Mrs. Hartwick than to date a girl taller than him. You’re screwed.
Bam. You’re 18. It’s been 3 years already since you started praying for a taller boyfriend. God seems to be busy because the only guy who’s interested in you is 5’5 and despite him being cute, intelligent, kind, gallant and funny, you don’t give a sh*t. He didn’t fill his quota of inches
Bam again. You’re 23. All of your friends want you to meet all the tall guys they encounter. And actually, you do too. Unfortunately height and intelligence are not correlated.
You keep on praying for the perfect man to come, but when he shows up you pull out your measuring tape and you go back home.
There you watch romantic movies and spend your time on the internet typing the names of actors you fantasize about to know if they are taller than you – just in case you would meet one someday.
But you never meet Keanu Reeves or Brad Pitt or Ryan Gosling. All you meet is the 5’6 guy working at the coffee shop at the corner of your street who tells you every morning: “Come here mama come make me your toy boy”. You want to throw up your latte every single time.
And Bam.
Here It is.
Love with a Capital L.
Who would have figured the world would stop on the day you meet that amazing, smart, talented, genuine, sweet, funny, brave, perfect… whoops. Did I say perfect? Let’s take this back for a second. He’s not perfect, he’s shortER!!! By ONE INCH and a HALF!!!
Meeting the shorter version of your dream
I can’t walk in the street with him!
No no no…!! I had said I wanted a TALLER MAN!!! What the hell??? Hey! God!!! That wasn’t the plan!!! Where are you??! Haven’t you received all my prayers??! God??! God!!!!!! God… but he’s PERFECT!!
But… what about spooning?
Oh well, you eventually learn to laugh about it. And it’s cool.
Oh you still have these moments when you try to imagine that he’s taller than you. Even if only for 30 seconds.
But in the end, it’s ALL GOOD.
Well yes tall ladies, my man is an inch AND A HALF shorter than me. He has been for many years and although I sometimes – secretly – wish they would, I don’t think things will change anytime soon. But who cares.
It took me a while to get over feeling like a football player (click to read my story) and dreaming of someone who would make me feel petite and delicate, but I’ve learned to have other priorities, like having someone who makes me feel loved and important.
When I look at the search engine terms in my stats, the ones some young girls typed before landing on my blog, you wouldn’t believe how many times I see things like “I’m a tall girl will I ever find a boyfriend” or “Do guys like tall girls?”.
I’m making no judgement, I’ve been there. But if only these young girls could walk in my shoes for only one second, they would stop worrying. Stop worrying!
Love knows no bounds, love knows no inches, love knows nothing but love. Love without a measuring tape. Love without measure.
Yes, dear tall girl, love comes in all sizes.
Moreover, a study by two sociologists from New York University concluded that… short men make better husbands and more stable marriages! So why deprive ourselves from it?!
And for the men reading this, here’s an article on why shorter men should go after taller women!
Im 5’11 or 6ft Idk snd my fiancé is 5’7
I love him to desth but i always feel like I would probably be happier with someone my size its a struggle
My boyfriend is soo much shorter than me. We are still in school(i not sharing what grade) and i wish i was shorter than him. We haven’t kissed yet or hugged or held hands. It is a work in progress. I HATE BEING TALLER!!!!!!!!!!
Just found out about this blog off of Pinterest and I have been loving it! I am 5’9″ and dating a guy who is about 5’7″ and while our height difference isn’t too crazy, I notice it. I always pictured myself with a taller guy and now I found a perfect guy but he’s shorter than me. I love him so much, but I feel so guilty for wishing he was taller than me. Tons of people who I meet and see that my boyfriend is shorter than me always say “wow I don’t think I could be with a guy who was shorter than me” and it makes it all the more difficult to be confident in the fact that I am taller. I have loved checking out this website and reading your posts and comments from other taller girls who feel the same struggles!
Welcome Mel! ^_^ Don’t feel guilty, we all wish our partner was a little more of this or a little bit less of that at some point! What matters is that you won’t let what other people think come between you and the one you love 🙂 Happy you found me!
I’m 5′ 10″ and my boyfriend is 5′ 6″ (ish) and I feel so guilty whenever we go out ppl starting us as if we came from another world or something. Also, my folks are pretty objective of me dating a shorter guy. I would love to have courage from you and other girls who’re also in the same shoes as me.
Hey TallnCurly,
So I am exactly 179cm. How crazy is that?!
Anyways, on this moment I have two boys in my life. One who is about 30cm taller than me and one who is about 30cm shorter than me.
My heart is torn between two and I have no idea if I really like the tall one or if is he just tall?! Funny right…. And if I even like the short one or is he just short..
I hope you reply to this… from a tall girls perspetive.
Lots of love
Hi Anika 🙂
Sorry for the late response! My thought on this… sincerely, if you’re wondering if you like those guys only because of their height, you probably you don’t really like them at all… 😉
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STORY OF MY LIFE seriously !!! I can totally relate ! So basically I’m 5.11, 180cm and have curly hair.. and I’ve always been looking for someone at least as tall as me if not taller.
But recently I met the most WONDERFUL person on Earth, literally the person I’ve been looking for my entire life, like THE guy (Okay that’s maybe a bit of exagge… no, really)
Kind, Funny, Handsome, Beautiful smile, very good shape, lovely eyes.. AND of course he is 5.3, 161cm ? I never saw that coming !!! I literally talked to God and said “Reaaally ? Are you kidding me ?????”
It’s been 5 years I know him now and we started talking recently and WOW he is just PERFECT.. We are planning on meeting soon (we live in 2 different continents lol long story) and I really hope height won’t be a problem. But this article is sooo good I really think there won’t be any problem !! You give me so much hope !
Thank you sooo much!!
Hi Susan, I can totally relate to your story and the exact thing happening to me too… thanks for sharing and so good to know that we’re not alone haha.. I live in Asia where there’s alot of body shaming and public humiliating. People see negative on us.
My boyfriend is shorter than me but he keeps arguing that he is the taller one in the relationship. The funny thing i do is each time i know i will meet him after work and i was to wear a pair of heels i will always carry a pair of scandals and change just before meeting him. Although nowadays it does not bother me that much
This helped me so much! I’ve always been into shorter guys but society always made me think this is wrong. I tried dating guys taller than me but it never worked out. Now i’m in a wonderful relationship with the most amazing guy ever who happens to be shorther than me. People always stare at us and the fact that he’s a lot skinnier than me doesn’t help either. We love eachother a lot but my parents said they will never approve of our relationship because of this. It kinda sucks but i can’t give up on such an amazing person just because he’s a few cm shorter. I love your work and thank you for helping us see the good parts in dating someone shorter ♡
Very relatable. I’ve always preferred short guys to tall guys for some reason, but they were always shy because I was a lot taller than them. I also personally felt awkward about being tallerm. That was until I met my current shorter boyfriend (I am 5’9 and he’s 5’5). Because he was confident in his self, I became confident in myself and our relationship. We get a few stares here and there but we don’t really care. I originally thought my insecurity with my height would result in only a short term relationship, but 3 years and we’re still going strong.
When you and a guy like each other but you’re like 2 inches taller than him so you google articles about being the taller girl to show him that it’s ok. lol.
It’s 2020 and that is exactly what I did to get to this page. lol I am 5’9 and he is 5’7. Why does it feel like such a big difference?
exactly what i did. He’s 5,3 and i’m 5,7 or 5,8. I always thought this was weird and we were gonna be judged on it and it felt weird walking beside him. But i’m desperately in love with him.
Heey, I am 17 now and I am 180cm, so yes I am very tall. And on top of that I’m from Mexico so tall guys are rare here. All my life I’ve met people who try to bring me down for my height but I’ve learned to come around all those moments. About 3 months ago my best friend and I have developed a relationship, he is shorter than me hahaha, he’s like 162cm. So I was going through the internet and I”ve came across this article and when I say the stairs picture it was so accurate since I do the same with my bf. It’s so cute but yeah, we get the looks from other people when they see that I am taller than him, but he doesn’t mind as me. So we’re proud of being different to other couples and we are also proud of that. I really loved this article and it helped me a lot to get over the height difference 🙂 Thanks!!
You’re most welcome Victoria :)) What’s 18cm when there is love? 😀